Trial marriage anyone?

 Trial marriage? What is this world coming to?  In Mexico, trial marriage may soon be available- making try-out-a-spouse legal to test if a 2-year trial run spouse works for ya.  I wonder if there's an exchange of vows at a trial marriage ceremony, and if so, maybe the vows go something like this-  'I promise to give you two trial test-years of my life as your beloved, and at the conclusion of our two year trial marriage contract, you or I can decide if two year marriage made us both happy and is worth going forth, or we can agree to end our trial marriage peacefully with no hard feelings, beloveds no more. With that said and both agreeing to,  let's give it a trial run, so help us God." Then, the couple is declared trial husband and trial wife. May they live happily for the duration of their contract.

After the two years are up, there's no need for a divorce. Just part and go separate ways. Pack you things and off you go, the trial marriage is over, no divorce papers to sign. Doing it this way, the divorce rate will decrease because it's eliminated. Just walk away free and clear to decide upon a trial  marriage with someone else  or until you find someone and your both decide it's the right trial spouse and you want to make it a permanent spouse and marriage rather then a trial one. 

Marriage has been reduced to sampling different pairs of shoes until you find just the right fit.


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Marriage is by definition a union, a joining together.  God created marriage to blend and connect two people together into one. ONE. You wouldn't want to sever your own arm or head or heart because it's joined with the other parts making you one complete body.  Marriage is supposed to be like you're super-glued together with the intention of never becoming unstuck from your spouse  What kills most marriages is jumping into a marital relationship without giving much thought or importance to what's required and involved  to maintain an exciting, thrilling, alive and happy marriage.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  Marriage requires daily effort on each party,  and that's the problem.  Many do not fully realize what is going to be required in a marriage before saying their vows.  Then, when it's discovered that give and take, communication, understanding and forgiveness is to be provided,  they aren't ready to give that,  so the marriage suffers.  Trial marriages brings the holy sanctity of marriage down to the level of short-term flings, which never do last.

A marriage was initially meant for the bonding and joining a man and female together to become one in the sight of God, to reproduce themselves and raise and nurture their children in the knowledge of God, to continue generation after generation.  Marriage is not to be taken lightly and marriage is much more than a legal means to bed with someone.  I understand there's a high percentage of divorces in Mexico, but children born of the union, now confused, have to become accustomed to their parents, once together, now separated.  It really is a shame that grown people do not realize innocent children born in a marriage are the one's suffering the most from their parents divorcing.  Couples should keep this in mind, being firmly committed with  a rock solid marriage first before deciding to bring children into the mix.  Marriage is supposed to be a commitment in which you never give up to make it a permanent union.

So, is trial marriage the answer? I see this as a legal way to change sleeping partners every two years and skip having to pay a divorce attorney.

The Marriage Bed

There is a short passage mentioning marriage in the Bible which reads...  Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. (Hebrew 13:4).  This passage is nestled between remembering those in prison, and do not to fall in love with money.  The marriage bed. God places importance upon the bed to be shared with a man and his wife for good reason. God's design for marriage is sacred and should not be violated. If violated, God, in His infinite wisdom, sees fit to judge those who don't listen.  And, His righteous judgment of when and how He will judge is totally at His discretion.

God's Word says He will judge persons who commit adultery and all who are sexually immoral.

                            The bed

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In this day and age, no matter what others are saying, or how many millions are doing their thing contrary to the Word of God, be mindful that God and His Word should be heeded for your own good.

Here is a site you can visit to see what God's Word tells of sexual immorality.

Is what you're doing pleasing to God according to his Holy Word?  If not,  stop and ask God for forgiveness and ask the Lord to forgive your sins and help you refrain from doing what will bring judgement upon yourself.  God is so loving and wants to save you from all unrighteousness. And Jesus is the answer.

View this video. It's very good and right on in explaining how to get saved for those who need help.



Finally, it's a good feeling to make peace with God, through Jesus.  In or out of the marriage bed, this is the way to freedom and peace like no other.  And remember, it's a spiritual relationship. Having your spirit and heart aligned with God is most important. Keep it pure.


Until next time, faithfully following Him on that narrow road.

Divorce- you can't avoid the scars

I've experienced marriage and divorce. More than once, I'm not proud to say.  I want to shed a little advice that no one may share with you about divorce. Yes, it's so exciting finding someone you feel strongly about, and have honest intentions of living with and loving.  But you need to know getting married is not only about planning your wedding day and  honeymoon. Marriage is the union of two people into one.  It's a merger meant not be separated once joined.  Marriage is the leaving of your parents and be joined to another and the two are to be glued together for life as one.  What? For life? No way you say!  There is divorce so I can rid myself if this marriage if things don't work out.  Yes, that may be so, but it's not the way God intended it to be. So,God allows divorce, but along with divorce comes some pretty deep scars.

Marriage was designed by God to be forever

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 You don't totally get away from divorce and be as you prior to marriage. With divorce you're legally freed from your former spouse, but in actuality, whether you want to believe this or not, when you were joined together as husband and wife, a little of what was shared to become one flesh in God's eyes- that can't be undone. Just like history can't be undone. In God's eyes, you were one flesh. Then when you get divorced, your physical separation made scars. Those scars can be on your heart, your mind, your thoughts, your character, your actions. You had a life together and that can't be wiped away from history. Why? Because marriage was created by God. God's design was perfect. It was to be permanent. It was to symbolize love on earth between two people of different sexes, to raise offspring and grow children and share in loving God. This is what is called going forth, being fruitful and  multiplying. And with each person, God wanted a personal relationship. God wanted to commune with His creation which He so adored and loved and wished to obey Him. Obey? Yes, obey as a good parent wants their children to obey them to protect them from harm. There's a lot of possible harm a child could get into, and loving parents' responsibility is to protect their children. When children don't obey, then all sorts of harm are just an arms length away. God made marriage and the family as an institution on earth as a symbol of what it will be like in heaven. Love. Forever.

But when man wants to do it contrary to God's plan, then there is no escaping the scars.
So take those marriage vows very seriously and your marriage day to be joined to another seriously. If you can't honor the vows, then don't be joined together.  That day should be not something you rush into. Scars are forever.
You can get over your ex and move on, but like a broken bone, there will always be some evidence of the break.  Avoid divorce at all costs is best for all now and in the future.

Scars are inevitable when marriage ties are broken

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Same sex marriage

I just read that ex-President Bush's daughter, Barbara, is on the side for same sex marriage. This made me sit for a while to contemplate about what I've learned over the years of Sunday morning sermons, my Bible reading and studying, and listening to hundreds of hours of fine Bible teachers on Christian radio.  I'm not going to be judging anyone, that's not my place to do, as I'm a sinner saved by grace. But it's my understanding that marriage is created by God for the union of joining together a man to a woman.  I can't think of a single scripture that indicates God's approval for same sex marriage.  If God intended for same sexes to marry, then two men could birth their offspring, or two women could birth their offspring.  But that's impossible and can never be for two of the same sex.  In a union, the man is the husband and the female is the wife. The father is male and the mother is female. One of each, not two of the same.  Any thing other than that is not of God's design. And the inspired Word of God says homosexuality is an abomination, a detestable act and unnatural.  Anything other than how it's originally designed is not authentic but an attempt to copy and no matter how hard two men or two women try to make their love for each other be just like the love and marriage of a man to a woman, it's impossible. That's like wanting to believe an apple is an orange even though they're both labeled as fruit, they can't ever be what the other is.  Since the garden of Eden, man and woman got their first taste of defying God, and have since then been coming up with reasonings and excuses to justify and fit his or her personal desires to have what she/he wants outside of God's protective and loving boundaries.  I have to admit we humans can come up with some pretty good excuses and arguments. We've become good at finding ways to justify our desires and believe we should have everything we want no matter what and push God right out of the picture.  I don't know if God in his Spiritual way laughs or cries when He hears the excuses. And still God is so abounding in love that He allows us, His creation to go along as we please in our selfish ways and ignore His warnings that it's wrong. He allows man to keep on traveling down that dark road hoping we see the error of our ways. But somewhere down that road the effects of choices made will come to pass. That is for sure. The effects could be miles down the road or just around the corner. And the effects of disobeying God can manifest in anything- our bodies, our homes, jobs, those we love, anything.

The effects of our choices could be down the road or around the bend

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Just as you can't ignore gravity, God's Word is a sure thing- solid as solid can be.  God is ever so patience and extends a mighty long, mercy arm to all of us every second of every day. I am so grateful of that.  If two of the same sex desires to be together in a relationship, please call it something other than marriage.  The master design for marriage is the union of opposite sexes to produce offspring in love by the coming together of different body structures fitting together for sperm from the man to meet inside the body of his wife and a new life starts and grows inside her body, which is designed for protecting and nurturing new growth.  If intimate love between two men or between two women is to happen, that's an entity of man's design and should be called something other than marriage. There's no way they can reproduce on their own as a man with a woman can. No way.  And dare I think, if man or woman wishes for the right to marry whomever they love, then what could next down the line-the right to marry their pet they love?  Remember, man wants what man wants. And many times, man wants to defy God.  A lot of times his wants get him in trouble.

 God created love, and designed us to enjoy love and intimacy within the realms He designed.  If man or woman go outside those realms, and give the reason that they have the right to do so because it's what they want, then so be it. Anyone can read of the consequences that resulted in those who defied God. The consequences can be various and can be long coming, but they will come. God lovingly gives us the will to choose, but I know it must hurt his heart just as a parent tells their child to not play in the street, but the child decides to play there anyway, and one day is seriously hurt.  Whether it's willful or unknowingly, disobedience is sin. A sinful lifestyle is sin. The consequences of sin are real. If you choose to ignore God's Word, you're given that choice to do so, now.  But ignoring and excuses won't fly when you have to one day face God and give an account of your choices. God's Word stands and endures forever.

Marriage-created by God to unify a man and a woman

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Oh, here is the definition of a father,  a mother

Scripture references- Genesis Chapter 1- Chapter 3- (Adam, Eve, the garden of Eden, disobedience, sin and consequences); Leviticus 18:22, 20:13; 1 Corinthians 6:9-10; and Romans 1:26-28.

I invite your comments.

Until next time, on that narrow path, looking forward and upward to the shining Son.